Am I a lost cause or no?

Of course not! Don't be in a rush to lose your virginity. Count it as a badge of honor, and your future wife will respect you for it. Women who are worth your time don't want a player. It may seem like the "bad guys" always get the girl, but they actually just get the stupid girls. The girl who will make your world go round will be the one who is interesting to you, challenges you, has the same values as you, and who loves you exactly as you are, virginity and all.